How To Tie Someone Up – For Example, Your Partner Using Sexual Restraints

Sexual restraints are fun, naughty, and exciting! They allow you to live out all kinds of naughty fantasies and engage in a wide range of sexy and sensual role playing games. But mastering how to actually use sexual restraints is a whole different game! So today we’re going to help you understand how to use these devices, and explain the best kinds of ways to restrain your partner!

Sexual restraints are restrictive accessories that allow you to explore different balances of power during sex. Sexual restraints can be used on different or all parts of the body: the most common sexual restraints are those used on the wrists (such as handcuffs)! There are all kinds of things you can use as sexual restraints: ropes, handcuffs, and satin ties are all fantastic feeling options. The type of sexual restraints you choose will depend on the activities you plan on partaking in, as some endeavors may require stronger restraints than others.

What Kinds Of Sexual Restraints Are There?

If you’re wondering what kinds of sexual restraints there are, don’t worry – you’re not alone! There are actually many different types, all of which are slightly different. We’re going to talk you through each and every different type and provide an example or two. Hopefully, you’ll find something that you’ll really like, that will really suit your partner’s naughty needs! So without further ado, let’s get to it!

Hand And Ankle Cuffs

These types of sexual restraints are pretty self-explanatory as to what they do: they stop your sub from being able to move their wrists or ankles. Whether you want them bound together or held apart. This is perfect for both restricting movement and allowing awesome access to all of the fun bits! Yummy!

A great example of these kinds of cuffs are the super strong Quickie Cuffs. They are a fantastic starting point if you’re new to the world of bondage and sexual restraints. These cuffs are made from a soft yet sexy feeling silicone, meaning they are reasonably comfortable. And on top of all that, they’re super easy to just slip on without having to fiddle around with keys and fastenings. Sure, they don’t have the harsh metallic feel or sound of metal handcuffs, but they really take discreetness to the next level! If you want to take your kink on the go, they’re perfect for traveling with, and won’t raise any eyebrows while passing through those pesky airport metal detectors! They’re not the most adjustable or hardcore of cuffs, but for beginners, they truly are a fantastic jumping-off point!

Bed Restraints

If you want to tie your sub to the bed and make sure that they can’t escape, then bed restraints are the thing that you’re looking for! They can be attached to many parts of the bed, and have cuffs on them that will firmly yet comfortably hold whoever you put in them!

For something like this, you’re going to want to get your hands on the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System. They’re a great accessory for anyone who wants to try out some discreet bondage straps. They can be run under the mattress, with the cuffs poking out at each corner. This allows you and your sub to have 4-poster bed-style restraints! Then, when you’re all done, they can be quickly and easily tucked away back under the mattress. They are designed with comfort in mind, but don’t underestimate them – they are tough and strong, and will hold any sub securely until you’re ready to release them!

Door Restraints

If you want some stood-up action, then try our door restraints! The designs of these restraints vary wildly, but essentially they are straps that restrict your sub from moving their arms by holding their arms above their head. The straps go over the top of the door frame and are held in position by closing the door.

One of the most potent and enjoyable examples of this is the Sportsheets Door Jam Cuffs. They provide you with the unusual ability to be able to turn your doors into bondage restraints. These adjustable velcro straps are perfect for everyone and the soft furry lining means they’re comfortable too. They’re really easy to use, as the tubes keep the straps fixed in place without causing any damage to the doors. It’s the ideal kind of restraint that can be used anywhere you go – as long as there’s a door! Sure, the Sportsheets Door Jam Cuffs are not designed to take too much weight on their own, but if you have the support of a partner, then wearing them can be a really fun and liberating restrictive experience!


If you want a really restrictive experience, then why not try strapping your sub into a hogtie? These are designed to restrain a person’s arms and legs behind them, preventing any form of effective movement. It has the added benefit of allowing complete and total access to each and every fun part, with absolutely no limits!

The Whip Smart Hog Tie brings together comfort and bondage in the most sexily sensual way possible! Anyone with a bit of BDSM restraint experience is going to love the Whip Smart Hog Tie because it’s super restricting but still comfortable for the wearer thanks to the padded cuffs. The Velcro fastening makes the cuffs easy to get on and off, so if you’re new to the hogtie method, you should find this set straightforward enough to get started. Not only that, but it can be folded away easily and discreetly, meaning it won’t draw any attention when you’re not using it! It’s secure, it’s budget-friendly, and it’s guaranteed to provide you with a good time!

Spreader Bars

Let’s talk about the ever-popular spreader bars! These solid bars feature restraints on each end. Once strapped into them, your sub will be forced to keep their legs and/or arms spread wide! That means not only do you get a fantastic view, but they have no means of escape! Perfect for the sexual restraint connoisseur!

Take the Liberator Talea Spreader Bar Cushion with Cuffs, for example. The red padded bar is the beautiful focus of this spreader, which is a sturdy bar covered with supportive foam, allowing you to maintain trickier angles like the perfect pelvic tilt for delightfully deep penetration. It has comfortable wrist and ankle cuffs, allowing you to spread yourself or your partner in whichever way you see fit! That’s right – it’s super comfortable to wear and use, for both parties! With a length of 30 inches (0.76 meters), it guarantees that the view will be as sexily arousing as the amount of access that you’ll get! It gives a whole new meaning to the phrase ‘open wide’!

Bondage Rope

Don’t tie yourself in knots trying to figure out which is the best sexual restraint for you. Choose something as simple as bondage rope instead! Also known as shibari rope, this purpose-made rope is designed to safely restrain your sub using knots/designs of your choice. A rope is an excellent option for doms who want to get a bit more creative when restraining their partner. And subs are in for a fun and friction-free time, too!

An exceptional example of this is the Doc Johnson Japanese-Style Bondage Rope. This beautiful 10 meter length of Japanese-Style bondage rope is the perfect sexual restraint if you want to try practicing elaborate knots. It’s a great soft beginner rope because not only does it come with a knot-tying guide, but it’s made of soft cotton and is designed to lay flat against the skin for maximum comfort. Finally, not only does it feel great, and is fun to use, but it’s easy to cut, should there be any need for a quick escape! Sexy AND safe – now there’s an awesome combination!

So Which Of These Sexual Restraints Is Best?

Well, it all comes down to what you and your partner like and what you want out of your sexual restraints. If you’re an experienced, hardcore BDSM lover, then tougher, stronger sexual restraints suck as hogties and spreaders are going to be your jam. However, If you’re a beginner then you’ll want to go for something a little more forgiving and comfortable, such as the bed or door restraints.

At the end of the day, the best thing to do is give them all a chance! After all, you can’t be sure you do or don’t like something unless you try it! So find yourself a supportive and loving partner that has the same kinks as you, and get down and dirty with the most sexy restraints in the business!

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