Is My Man Having A Mid Life Crisis?

It is common for most people to have a bit of a wobble when they enter their mid life years. It is that pivotal halfway point in our lives when it is easy to start questioning what we have or haven’t achieved in life and so it’s understandable that many of us experience a mid life crisis. We all handle the aging process differently, however there are some recurring actions that seem to take place, especially in men, who have entered into those middle aged years.

In this article we’re going to look at some of the common choices that men make that could indicate they are having a mid life crisis.

He Buys A Fancy Car

Most men love cars, they can be their absolute pride and joy, so the alarm bells shouldn’t automatically start ringing. However, if your man suddenly starts bringing home brochures for fancy convertibles, with a carbon fibre steering wheel, leather interior, and kitted out with all the latest high tech gadgetry, you might want to sit him down and have a chat to see what’s going on.

While there’s nothing overtly wrong in a man wanting to buy a new car, there is obviously the big question of whether he can afford it and also the reason as to why he wants it. It could be that he has spent time comparing his life to that of his peers and he may feel that he has not achieved as much and is therefore suffering from feeling of inferiority. But as the saying goes, ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ and if this is the reason for him wanting a new toy to play with, he may require help.

He Starts Looking at Second Home Options

Some men are all about the status symbol and the showing off to their friends, and this can worsen during a mid life crisis because he may feel as though he has to prove himself and show his worth to those around him. This could be made apparent through the purchase of a sports car (see above) or he may start looking at this website because he’s got it into his head that at this age he really should own a holiday home.

It may sound like a bit of a cliché, but one big part of a mid life crisis in men is this sense that they haven’t achieved their dreams and so there then becomes this rush to try and fulfil those dreams as quickly as possible before time runs out. Women may excuse this behaviour as just ‘a phase’, but when it starts to affect the relationship or impact your financial situation there are clearly larger problems at play that need to be addressed before things get out of hand.

Something else that happens during a male mid life crisis is that some men tend to stray and have affairs at this time in their lives. This is another reason why you have every right to be suspicious if he’s trawling the web researching second home options on especially if he hasn’t even discussed this with you. We’re not saying you should start looking at his internet history, nor should you check his phone messages, your relationship is based on trust and you should respect this until you have reason to believe the trust is being broken. Sit down and have an open heart to heart with him about how he’s feeling and what’s going through his head right now. You never know, he might actually be surprising you with a beach side rental for a few days, so never jump to the wrong conclusions based purely on your over active imagination and what you’ve seen in films.

He Starts Drinking More

If your man is drinking more than he used to, this is a definite alarm bell and you should look at the ways you can help him to cut back before things get really out of hand. Help him by suggesting that you both cut down on the drink and agree that certain days should be booze free. It is always much easier when you have the support of someone else.

He may be using drink to mask his true feelings, often it can be a crutch to avoid having to think about certain issues, so again it is important to talk to one another. If he refuses your help, then you will need to seek professional help, of which there are plenty of places online where you can receive both support for you and advice on how to help your husband or partner too.

Entering the middle aged years needn’t automatically result in having a mid life crisis, but it is important to recognise the signs if you think your man is having one.

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