There isn’t a person in the world who isn’t afraid of something. Even the people we find to be fearless have things that keep them awake at night and start breathing shallowly. Things that frighten us can be rational or irrational, can be something hypothetical and distant, or can be something that prevents us from functioning normally. Overcoming fears is not easy, and it can’t be done quickly, but if you’re persistent and dedicated, you can face them and put them behind you.
Here’s how you can do it:
Accept That There’s A Problem
If your fears are preventing you from completing your everyday tasks and obligations, it might be the right time to admit that you have a problem. There are fears that literally make you feel paralyzed and don’t allow you to leave the safety of your own home or your car, and if you’re dealing with something similar, it’s important that you seek professional help as soon as possible. Don’t make up elaborate excuses or continue putting off dealing with things that trigger your fears. The road to recovery isn’t easy, but the sooner you start dealing with your fears, the sooner you’ll be free of them.
Face The Fear
There is one thing that you have to remember: no matter how fast or how far you run, you will never be able to outrun and escape your fears. They live in your mind, and you will carry them with you wherever you go, and the only thing you can do to change that is to face them and come out victorious. In order to do this, you have to understand the root of your fears and put it into proper context. Only when you are able to do that and put all your fears out in the open, will you be able to examine and dissect them, learning a lot in the process. Because fears are like demons and shadows that hold great power over you all the while you are trying to ignore them, you must be brave and face them.
Work With Professionals
In addition to working with a therapist or a psychiatrist, there are other professionals you can rely on to help you overcome some of your fears. While deep childhood traumas and phobias are usually dealt with in the safety of therapists’ offices, you can rely on others in “the real world”. If you have a fear of water but would like to learn to swim, work with a swimming coach, overcome your fear of driving by finding a good instructor for your driving lessons, and deal with your fear of dogs by dealing with friendly puppies together with experienced dog trainers. Knowing that you have a seasoned professional by your side will ease your worries and anxieties a lot.
Take Baby Steps
No matter what you see in movies, overcoming your fears is rarely instantaneous and usually requires a lot of patience and hard work. Don’t push yourself too hard and don’t be devastated when you don’t wake up “cured” one day. It’s important to take things slow because fear is a powerful enemy, and you can’t beat it quickly. Much like working out and becoming stronger, give yourself time to become stronger mentally in order to beat your fears. Baby steps are the best way to reach your goals because rushing into things can backfire and cause more damage than good.
Practice Being Unafraid
You know what they say: fake it until you make it. As funny as the saying is, it can be one of your greatest allies in your battle against fear. When you imagine yourself as unafraid and see yourself as confident and composed while doing things that frighten you, your mind will slowly grow to accept it as truth. By feeding yourself these positive images for a long time, you “trick” your subconscious mind to start seeing it as the truth. After a while, your self-image will change, as will the way you feel and think about yourself, and you will discover that you are more confident than you were before.
Even though fears are a part of who we are, we shouldn’t allow them to control our lives. We are all afraid of something, but it doesn’t mean that we should live our lives in fear’s vicious grip. If you notice that your fears are becoming bigger and stronger, and that they’re preventing you from living your life to the fullest, don’t hesitate to do something about it. Once you face and overcome that which scares you the most, you will become stronger and more confident, and you will have more faith in yourself.
Diana Smith is a full time mom of two beautiful girls interested in business and marketing related topics.
In her free time she enjoys exercising and preparing healthy meals for her family.