Understanding That It Was Not Your Fault: A Guide to Healing

a young man resting his arms on a table looking into the flame of a candle. Going through the process of healing and learning he is not at fault.

Trauma affects and even changes different people in different ways, depending on their psychological health and personality, but often, a tendency to blame one’s own self is seen in most individuals. In such cases, a majority of the people who feel that way are never guilty of what they accuse themselves of.

Understanding that it was not your fault is the very first step towards healing psychologically in such situations, and we are going to discuss a few important and helpful steps that lead to the final stage of healing.

Blaming The Right People

If blaming doesn’t sound like something that any healing process should promote, then you are absolutely right. However, there are exceptions, when there really is a party at blame, but the victim or the surviving family members of the victims end up blaming themselves instead. Directing the blame towards the actual responsible party is a key step in healing yourself in such situations.

Medical negligence continues to be one of the prime causes of concern for the UK, so if your suffering is caused by medical malpractice, you need to blame the medical professionals or authority in charge of you or your loved one during the incident.

Visit The Medical Negligence Experts at the-medical-negligence-experts.co.uk and see if you have a case against the hospital, physician, clinic, surgeon or any other party involved in the tragic incident. The consultation doesn’t cost a thing, but knowing you can get compensated will install new hope inside of you and you will have legal cause to believe it really wasn’t your fault.

The same goes for domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, misuse of power, etc., as well. When there is an actual person or entity responsible for the trauma, take appropriate legal action and redirect the blame and the law towards those that are actually guilty.

Everyone Makes Mistake But It’s The Intention That Matters

Loss of a child, a parent, a partner or someone else who was very close to you is often followed by self-blaming. The person is able to find faults in their actions even if there was none. Sometimes, there may actually be some fault as well, but unless it was intentional, that is not something for which you should hold yourself responsible.

Talk to a Therapist

Sad as it is, it is not possible for the person to realise all of that entirely on their own, when they are already deep into depression because of undue guilt. Even the people around them may not be of much help since they could also be blaming the particular individual.

The only hope in such cases is to see a proper therapist, as they know techniques to first help you understand the nature of the guilt you are feeling, and then help you to understand it was not your fault. It may take time, but therapy will help.

Things happen and we are either unable to prevent them or to blame for them. This is the final stage of realisation which you will come to at the end of your efforts, which will be a good day.

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