The saying goes that a problem shared is a problem halved, and it’s true, we’re all well aware that talking about things always makes it better in the long run. But what if it’s about the rather sensitive subject of your man not being able to get an erection, what then?
Erection problems are more common than you might think, with figures estimated at 1 in 10 men worldwide experiencing some form of erectile dysfunction, with most of these cases occurring in men over the age of 40. And many of the men experiencing this are, understandably so, left feeling emasculated, embarrassed and, pardon the pun, down about it.
But if so many men are experiencing erectile dysfunction then why the heck aren’t we talking about it more and why is it such an embarrassing and sensitive subject to discuss?
What Causes Erectile Dysfunction?
Erectile dysfunction can occur for a variety of different reasons; from medical conditions, lifestyle choices, and increased levels of stress, which is why it’s so important to visit your GP and discuss the matter further in order to establish the cause. Perhaps the biggest hurdle to overcome is that once it happens, it then becomes a ‘thing’, and that thing becomes something that’s worried about and so the next time a man tries to get an erection, he may find he’s unable to simply because of the stress he’s putting himself under to try and get one. It’s a catch 22 scenario!
Although there are no guarantees, there are certain lifestyle changes that can be made which may help to either avoid future problems with erectile dysfunction or that may assist in preventing it from happening again. And there is also the option of premature ejaculation treatment, which you could ask your GP about. The important thing to remember is that this is treatable, and no one should have to put up or live with it.
As with most things when it comes to leading a healthy lifestyle, it’s important to:
- Regulate your weight so that it falls within a healthy BMI for you.
- Don’t smoke.
- Stick within the recommended level of alcohol units each week.
- Eat a healthy, balanced diet.
- Exercise regularly – although you may want to take a break from cycling as too much time in the saddle can sometimes play a part.
- Learn ways to handle stress – maybe by learning meditation, breathing exercises or practising yoga. Anything that relaxes the mind will also help relax the body.
How Do I Talk To Him About It?
In short, with a lot of sensitivity, a lot of tact and armed with as much information as possible and a practical plan of action – ‘cos men love a practical solution.
According to research, it is thought that erectile dysfunctions are the cause of 20% of all breakdowns in a relationship, that’s a lot isn’t it? But a high number of those breakdowns could have been avoided if the couple had just sat down and talked about it openly and with understanding on both sides. Just because his willy isn’t working the way it should right now, doesn’t mean it’s broken for good, it doesn’t make him any less of a man and it definitely shouldn’t be a reason to ditch him!
Choose a time when you’re alone, when you’re both feeling relaxed and you’re not distracted by anything (switch off those phones!) and sit down to have a good heart to heart. Ask him whether anythings’ bothering him at the moment, whether he’s got any extra pressures on him at work, whether he’s tired, whether he’s feeling unwell or is worried about anything, anything at all. Just be there, just listen and just cuddle him – honestly a cuddle makes everything better.
And the thing is, you can’t force him to visit the GP I get that, but if it has become a problem then something needs to be done.
What’s The Answer?
In the past there’s been two options:
- Get him to the GP, get a diagnosis and probably get prescribed some Viagra.
- He’s been too embarrassed to go to the GP and decided to take matters into his own hands by ordering some dodgy ‘fake’ Viagra off of the Internet and a whole heap of other problems have arisen.
Because no matter how you spin it, most men are going to be embarrassed about picking up a prescription of Viagra – they don’t want the whole world to know they can’t get it up! But obviously the answer does not lie in under the counter, black market Viagra either… so how do we get around this?
Online purchasing is without doubt the easiest and most discreet way to get Viagra and now thanks to the new release of viagra connect online, men can buy a Viagra product without a prescription either online or over the counter from trusted UK pharmacies.
So there you have it, you have a choice:
- If you’re really shy, buy it online.
- If you think you’re man enough, get in line and queue with those people buying condoms, incontinence pads and other so called ’embarrassing’ products, and buy your Viagra over the counter.
Just remember, we’re all human, we all bleed, we all poo, we all break from time to time, no one is immune from anything, so get a grip, get talking and do something about it.